What is self trust? Self trust can be defined as having an assured reliance on your own character, abilities, strengths, and truths. To put it simply, self trust is being able to depend on yourself. Below are 6 techniques I’ve found helpful along my journey to trust and believe in who I am.
- Begin by recognizing the things you like about yourself. Acknowledge strengths, qualities, and talents you already possess that make you feel good about yourself. Anything you perceive to be positive about yourself is going boost your confidence. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging your achievements and being proud of yourself. Give yourself credit; it isn’t self-righteous, it’s self-loving.
2. Make your own decisions. If you don’t trust yourself, you’ll also fear making any kind of decision. This often results in you letting other people make decisions for you. There isn’t anything wrong with asking for advice or seeking an outside perspective before making a decision, but ultimately you are the only person who knows what is best for you.
3. Take risks. By nature, human beings don’t like to fail and will avoid a situation if they feel it could result in failure. However, stepping outside of your comfort zone is one of the best things you can do to develop self trust. It is also important to allow yourself to fail. Not everything you do will result in success, but if you avoid taking risks, you also deny yourself the opportunity to learn, grow, and trust in who you are. If you never take risks to test if you can trust yourself, you will never discover that you can.
4. Accept responsibility for the consequences of your choices, both positive and negative. When you deny responsibility for your own actions, you neglect the opportunity for self growth. When you place blame onto another person, you subconsciously reinforce your thoughts of being powerless.
5. Listen to your feelings. Your feelings serve as an internal guiding system that helps you navigate through life. When you ignore the guidance of your emotional compass, you are subconsciously abandoning that part of yourself. Remember that both positive and negative emotions are there to help you speak your inner truth. Trust the signals that your body is sending.
6. Set boundaries. If you don’t set clear boundaries, how are other people going to know when they’ve crossed the line? Remember, “givers” have to set boundaries because “takers” usually won’t. Develop healthy boundaries. Have a healthy understanding between yourself and others. Boundaries are defined by your feelings. Those feelings will always tell you if the boundary has been violated. Don’t violate your own boundaries. Define who you are so you can live in a state of authenticity.